Attachment Parents are Miserable Parents

There has been a lot about attachment parenting in the news lately. Now I’m familiar with theories about healthy child attachment and assumed that attachment parenting would be all about building healthy attachment in children. I guess it sort of is, but more in the way that assumes that a healthily attached child is physically attached to a parent at all times. Which doesn’t sound all that healthy to me. Actually, it sounds downright miserable. And awkward.

Having your child with you at all times, catering to their every desire, making sure they feel good at all times… hardly preparation for becoming a well-adjusted, contributing member of society. In fact, it looks more like building co-dependent, self-entitled, and un-empowered, bratty baby-adults.

Of course babies are dependent, that’s why they are babies! As children develop they need to learn to stand on their own 2 feet, they need to learn how to fail and try again, they need to know that you are there for them when you aren’t physically present, they need to learn to regulate their own emotions, they need to gain skills to interact with others in society in positive ways. They need parents not to do all of those things for them!

Stop raising people that the rest of us can’t stand to deal with!


About dirtyrottenparenting

I'm a parent of two lovely (most of the time) children. I work full time out of the home and I don't cook well, bake, sew, or do crafty things. I keep my high heels and jewelry at my office because there's no point in having them at home.
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3 Responses to Attachment Parents are Miserable Parents

  1. Oh wow! Nicely stated! I don’t know that I necessarily have a problem with “attachment parenting” per se (not sure I completely understand it, to be honest), but I will say that I’m sick and tired of seeing spoiled rotten brats who thing that the world revolves around them and that they’re “entitled” to whatever they want with no effort on their parts. Huge pet peeve of mine! 🙂

    Enjoyed this post. Thanks!

  2. Pingback: Times Magazine and Too Much Mother! | dirtyrottenparenting

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