Warning: This advice is not for use with children.
There are moments in life that call for a little confrontation. It can be very difficult to step into the confrontation zone. Most of us just want to be the nice guy, the feather smoother, the bagpipe in the distance player. We swallow our frustration and frantically attempt to channel our happy places.
But sometimes the happy place is the wrong place to go. Sometimes, in order to change the situation and turn things in a better direction, you have to find your angry place.
Don’t confuse the angry place with the place of rage. They are very different. The angry place gives just enough fuel to pull your head out of the sand, stand up for yourself or someone else, and give a big fat heave to the tiller. The place of rage spews out everywhere and does nothing more than splatter everyone with anger vomit (or diarrhea depending on what you just ate).
Some helpful tips to finding your angry place:
- Stand up. It’s hard to find your angry when sitting or lying down.
- Hold a stick in one hand. Swinging a stick helps summon the angry energy. You should put the stick down prior to confrontation as it may become more of a hazard than a help.
- Play heavy music loudly. Heavy music (preferably music with screaming in it) helps you get in the right head space. Turn the music off for the actual confrontation event.
- Make your justification list. A productive trip to your angry place requires a reason to be angry and list of changes that need to come out of a confrontation.
When you are all finished using your angry place, you will need to remind yourself that you are not a bad person, a douchenozzle, or an ass-monkey. Now you can go find your happy place again.