To Judge or not to Judge

ID-10036699I’m a fairly well educated, intelligent woman with a reasonable amount of life experience under my belt. I trust my own judgement the majority of the time.

So when I hear someone say, “Oh, you shouldn’t judge people.” I think, “Why the hell not?”

After years of observing the good, bad, crazy and just plain weird behaviors of other people, I have decided to allow myself to judge others. Think I’m wrong? Well then, I think you’re wrong. Let me tell you why I am not only qualified to judge, but destined to do so.

  1. Everybody judges, if only in their heads. It’s human nature. I am human.
  2. The true 99% is actually all about human stupidity. I’m in the 1% of human intelligence. (This is completely unrelated to the distribution of wealth as evidenced by the existence of extremely stupid rich people and extremely intelligent poor people.)
  3. Judgement should be based on keen observation leading to a critical analysis of behavior, and is pretty much the same as scientific inquiry. Good science = good judgement.
  4. I have many years of experience judging others. It is a skill that needs to be nurtured and grown. Most people don’t take the time for that sort of personal development.
  5. You are judging me right now for advocating judginess. You started it! Now I’m judging you for saying it’s not okay to judge and then hypocritically judging me for judging.

My number one rule for judging others is that you should keep your damn mouth shut about it. Judging is a personal choice and except for extreme circumstances, all judgements should remain in your head or in your journal (which should be burned when filled). There’s no reason to spread your judgements around unless they’re good ones.

In case you aren’t sure what a good judgement sounds like, here’s an example:

Hey you, those rainbow colored crochet leg warmers really match your purple dinosaur hat. After a careful analysis of your outfit, I have determined that you have excellent colour matching skills. 

My second rule for judging is that while making judgements, you must always keep in mind that you don’t know everything about everything and should be open to evidence that proves your judgement is incorrect. If that happens, you may need to alter your judgement. This is easier to do if you haven’t blabbed about it to everyone else – hence the rule about keeping your mouth shut.

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About dirtyrottenparenting

I'm a parent of two lovely (most of the time) children. I work full time out of the home and I don't cook well, bake, sew, or do crafty things. I keep my high heels and jewelry at my office because there's no point in having them at home. I love Mondays because I can return to the world of adults, go to the bathroom alone and have nearly uninterrupted conversations with others.
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10 Responses to To Judge or not to Judge

  1. vickidean123 says:

    Awesome. I love #5.

  2. I have judged you, but am keeping the verdict quiet with the foreperson as per your direction.

  3. paulbrodie says:

    Good advice. Judging is a necessary part of living. People judge all the time. If we don’t judge then we never make decisions. I think we could all do with a little more self honesty and proudly proclaim with you that we will be judgmental.

  4. stephieleidig says:

    I love your rules & completely agree!

  5. I could not have put it more beautiful. I completely agree and love #5. Great post!

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