I have come to realize over time, that there are a lot of people out there without a clear sense of purpose, or a plan. For anything. I’m a planner, so naturally I think this is a major problem.
As parents, I think we need to be more deliberate about what kinds of people we want our children to grow into.
I’m not talking about them becoming ballerinas or hockey stars or engineers or doctors… I’m talking about them becoming people who know how to cope with stress, who don’t give up after a failure, who can cook themselves a healthy meal, who can make good financial choices, who read and think critically, who know how to treat others with dignity and respect, and are able to develop healthy relationships.
How do we do this? We set these things as goals and we make a plan to get there. Think of it as a project, with multiple phases and multiple steps at each phase of the project. We make sure that we take the time along the way to evaluate how things are progressing and what, if any, changes need to be made.
When hubs and I decided to have kids it was an actual decision, with much discussion and debate. Yes? No? Pros? Cons? One? More than one? So…
Goal #1: get some kids.
Action plan to achieve goal #1: If I have to spell this one out for you then you need to go to some other website for assistance.
Goal #2: survive early childhood.
Action plan to achieve goal #2: Drink wine. Blog. Watch lots of TV while folding mountains of laundry. Go back to work as soon as possible to maintain sanity.
Goal #3: raise a healthy, functional, engaged member of society.
Action plan to achieve goal #3: TBD
I realize this is a bit more serious than I usually get on my blog, but now that I’ve emerged from the baby and toddler years, I no longer have to completely rely on wine and sarcasm to cope with everyday life. My brain is now functioning with appropriate levels of sleep and I can think again.
And as someone who works as a post-secondary institution and sees these fledgling adults during their first years out of the nest… I am simultaneously terrified and hopeful for the future.
So friends, I propose that we think about what kind of adults we want our kids to be and come up with a plan to get them there.
Who’s with me?